So, how do we best deal with our disappointments, our failures and our frustrations? Well, it really depends, to some extent, on what are our disappointments, failures and frustrations. For example, whether their impacts are felt only by us or by others, in which case we will not only have to answer for or address their impact on us, but on others as well. If their impact is limited to us, we are likely to have more, but not necessarily all healthy options, such as burying our heads in the proverbial sand. Or we can go into denial and pretend that we are affected by what has happened. We can give vent to the emotions we are feeling, or we can reflect carefully on what has happened and try to put it right, if that is an option and we have the control which is needed to do so.
However, when our failures, disappointments and frustrations involved or impact on others, it can be more difficult to deal with them, because we are not only dealing with the impact they have directly on us, and the emotions they have evoked, but also on the impact we believe and know they have on others, and the feelings and emotions we think they might have about us and our failures, frustrations and disappointments.
We cannot influence the things and events which have happened, but we can use the experience to influence the things which are yet to happen. In our times of low and/or conflicted state of heightened awareness, it can be helpful for us to contemplate on this, as we slowly but surely move towards a state of balanced tranquility.
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