That she is all alone with seemingly everyone having abandoned her to her fate.
They are the times when when she can be imagined, if not actually heard saying: 'Where is all of my family, my children, my grandchildren, my great grandchildren'?
Why am I not living with a member of my family or a member of my family living with me?
Of course, these are not unreasonable questions for my dear mother to be asking or thinking, or both.
No, they are reasonable questions. It is the answers to these questions which are more nuanced and complicated. It is the circumstances of the relatives which will not allow a simple answer.
Which is why my dear mother has not, and will probably not get the preferred solution that she would like to have to her 'problem.'
That of having this or that relative having her to live with them, or with her. And yes, although my dear mother has, is sometimes, probably oftentimes feeling this great burden of loneliness, of being alone.
Her circumstances and situation does have more merits than that of many other elderly and vulnerable people.
Over recent weeks my dear mother has, unfortunately, sustained two serious falls, while she has, of her own accord, taken to venturing out of her bedroom with the use of her walking frame.
On both accounts her sojourns were not essential, and her falls, though she was not observed to have sustained any serious harm, were significant and required assistance in getting her back on her feet.
It is indeed a testament to her resilience that she has been able to have these falls and not sustaining serious harm, considering her age.
To be continued!
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