I have learnt that these situations are a part of our human condition, and that it is better for us to continue to learn how to manage and live with them, instead of trying to prevent them happening.
Living, it might be accurately said, is mostly about managing and coping with the making and losing attachments.
And what of having children; what have I learnt from my experience sofar?
Well, in addition to what I have already stated, the challenge presented to parents are very onerous, so much more onerous than many or most first time parent are likely to be prepared for.
The idea of having your 'own' partner and, initially, baby, can be so appealing, romantic.
If you are a man, having your own wife, girlfriend or woman comes with a special status and associated 'rights', 'privileges', 'expectations and roles' and responsibilities and duties.
But probably the most irresistible of these, especially for younger people and those who are more given to what might be called the 'more traditional roles of a man and a woman in a union', are likely to be those pertaining to the other partner.
In this sense, the partners will sometimes speak of and refer to each other almost as if they are 'chattels', with references being made to 'my wife', 'my husband', 'my man', 'my woman.'
With all the underlying inferences towards 'ownership' of the other person.
A psychological perceptual state which can and sometimes does adds further difficulties which a relationship is brought to an end.
And one person not only feels that they cannot go on with living, but that neither should their now estranged or former partner and/or children should be allowed to continue to live.
But I am digressing, as I believe that I have already covered this issue as much as I intend to do.
To be continued!
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